Dating Coaches Gaining Popularity Ahead of Valentine's Day
By: Kim Behrens
Updated: February 13, 2013
NORMAL- Alexander Choban is still waiting to be hit by Cupids' arrow.
A love connection hasn't clicked, leaving his status set at single.
"I know, I'm the biggest and hottest bachelor in town," laughs Choban.
He has a full time job, a clean apartment, and likes to work out...qualities most women would find appealing.
But he tends to shy away when opportunity strikes.
"It's probably more of a lack of effort on my part," Choban admits. "I'm not going out and trying to meet people."
So a close friend set Choban up on a dating website, allowing him to search for potential matches from the comfort of his home.
"I messaged a few people and a few people messaged me but it wasn't very useful."
In a city filled with thousands, relationship experts say it's a numbers game.
People must put themselves out there to drive up their chances of finding a match
"If you want a partner, you need to do what you love because that's where you meet people with similar interests that you might connect with," said relationship counselor Kathryn Tornquist.
Tornquist says the key to a love connection is simple...
Be yourself.
But many forget this on the hunt for their other half.
"That's the easiest way to get yourself in a bad relationship, is pretend you're someone you're not."
Tornquist says turning to websites like eHarmony and match.com can help the search the process.
"Invest, experiment with it, play with it, just don't take it too seriously," added Tornquist.
"I'm not saying 'No' to anyone who comes knocking at my door...not that that's going to happen," said Choban.
So for him the choice means taking his car for a spin.
In hopes going the extra mile to find a match means he'll get one a short time down the road.
Be Mine?
If you don't have a valentine by the 14th, experts say that's okay.
Going out with friends or family is also a good way celebrate.
A love connection hasn't clicked, leaving his status set at single.
"I know, I'm the biggest and hottest bachelor in town," laughs Choban.
He has a full time job, a clean apartment, and likes to work out...qualities most women would find appealing.
But he tends to shy away when opportunity strikes.
"It's probably more of a lack of effort on my part," Choban admits. "I'm not going out and trying to meet people."
So a close friend set Choban up on a dating website, allowing him to search for potential matches from the comfort of his home.
"I messaged a few people and a few people messaged me but it wasn't very useful."
In a city filled with thousands, relationship experts say it's a numbers game.
People must put themselves out there to drive up their chances of finding a match
"If you want a partner, you need to do what you love because that's where you meet people with similar interests that you might connect with," said relationship counselor Kathryn Tornquist.
Tornquist says the key to a love connection is simple...
Be yourself.
But many forget this on the hunt for their other half.
"That's the easiest way to get yourself in a bad relationship, is pretend you're someone you're not."
Tornquist says turning to websites like eHarmony and match.com can help the search the process.
"Invest, experiment with it, play with it, just don't take it too seriously," added Tornquist.
"I'm not saying 'No' to anyone who comes knocking at my door...not that that's going to happen," said Choban.
So for him the choice means taking his car for a spin.
In hopes going the extra mile to find a match means he'll get one a short time down the road.
Be Mine?
If you don't have a valentine by the 14th, experts say that's okay.
Going out with friends or family is also a good way celebrate.
